A letter of longing for Daddy and the patient desire for a relationship with him.
All in Letters
A letter of longing for Daddy and the patient desire for a relationship with him.
Respect her opinions but keep in mind you're the adult. Too many times fathers want to be "friends" to keep their daughters from turning away from them. It isn't easy to let them know when they have stepped over a line, but when...
I saw your post about your project. Thank you! This is an awesome idea!!! I have lots to say to the men I know are good fathers, who love their children, whether they live with them full time or not. As a woman who essentially grew up without a father and who, as a teacher, has had many students with divorced parents, I have lots of suggestions...
I had a conversation with a wonderful friend of mine named Susan Clay. We were discussing "forgiveness" and the way that a father could ask his daughter for that gift. While I was getting caught up in the many levels of debate and self-defense that occur when we are in the wrong, her suggested comment was so simple and perfect...
My dad came back into my life when I was a mess. He pursued the relationship. I thought I had moved on. Who knows if my turn-around was partly because my father worked tirelessly to come back into my life. My marriage didn’t last but my relationship with my father is here to stay, and here are my words of advice for you…
Do the "boring" stuff.
If you get time together it’s tempting to want it to be special and fun every time, but what may matter more down the line is asking them to bring some homework, or volunteer for their extra-curricular activity.
You want time one-on-one with them, but...
Dad's I know it is tough trying to figure out the female mind. As a mom, it is hard for us too when it comes to our daughters. You are not alone. From little up to adulthood, our daughters are constantly changing and just as we get caught up to them they are on a completely new page and once again we...
Kids even as they grow, go through phases of love and hate, but if you remain that positive force, no matter what anyone throws your way over the years, in the long run, you will stand out as being the constant positive force that sooner or later, every child needs...
Do the "boring" stuff. If you get time together it’s tempting to want it to be special and fun every time, but what may matter more down the line is asking them to bring some homework, or volunteer for their extra-curricular activity...
Recently, my dad's girlfriend took his phone and sent me the most hateful messages ever pretending to be him. After doing so she deleted them from his phone. I took screen shots and sent what she had said to me. He didn't even care...
My father left when I was 10, he dropped me at a friends house and asked what I thought about my step father adopting me. I laughed thinking he was crazy... I already had a dad, why would I need to be adopted? But I soon realized that he said that because he wasn't coming back.
Hi Gordon… Thank you so much for our conversation a bit back... after my conversation with you I mentioned I would share about the feelings I struggled with having an absent Father in emotion and ability. Heartbreaking... painful… and lead me to a life that...
When it comes to fathers and daughters, YOU are the parent. It is really up to you to be the leader regardless of her actions or lack thereof. Please do not judge if what you are doing is working or not by her actions. Girls tend to “roller-coaster” emotionally, and sometimes they do not even know why...
I wish he had shown his devotion by staying with me for a whole day occasionally rather than sticking around for a few hours or not at all. But mostly, it's what I instinctively felt from him that caused me the pain. And that was this feeling that he wanted to be somewhere else or could only 'spare' a few hours...
My advice.... call every night to say goodnight, just like you were there. Leave a message if she doesn’t pick up or text. Send text messages frequently. Ask questions about her life, have special nights where you and her only go do something special. Daddy/daughter date nights. If you are blending a family and you ask her input, take it. If you give her a choice on something in the...
My parents divorced when I was around the age of 8, my mother moved us from Texas to Florida, giving my Father visitation during the summers. My Mother did everything she could to portray him as a terrible Father who loved us but didn’t really care enough to do anything. Looking back now, she contradicted herself most often trying to make it look like...
Too bad there is not a guide on how to be a great parent, in this case a great Dad. I’m a single Mom with an 11year old son, and it is the best, most rewarding job I have ever had in my life. It is also the hardest job I have ever had. One of the most important things I want to teach my son is...
What do I as a daughter wish my father had known? That I missed him more than I, as a young teen, knew how to articulate, and I still do, now that he is gone.That I wanted his attention, love, approval and ADVICE, but didn't know how to ask for that either.That I was stuck in rebellion, breaking away from his and my mother's influence, and it wasn't personal against him...
There were two sides to my relationship with my father. One side strengthened me significantly and helped me to grow as a person; the other side caused me damage that affected me through my adult life, until I became more conscious of my own patterns. I would like to write about both sides...
To the dads reading this, I applaud you, don’t give up. Really, I could end there.
What an honor to be part of such an incredible project. My perspective offered to you comes from a daughter who granted her father’s deathbed plea for forgiveness, and a mother standing in the gap for her daughters and their dad...